Leadership storytelling lessons from a kookaburra

 

A bird’s eye view.

A wonderful attribute for a kookaburra

and for any leader –

to see the whole picture,

the vision,

as well as the operational details.

 

 

Let me ask you a question though, have you had a leader, or seen a leader

who relied on that authority position (and power)

to get their message across,

to get things done that they needed done?

I’ve worked with a few.

 

I had a client, too, who came to me in start-up. She had been in a leadership position in corporate and had gone into business with an app that would make the work in that field much more efficient.

She needed to pitch and came for help because she had only ever been able to use her leadership authority/power to persuade, motivate, to get things done, and now that was gone.

 

I have worked with bosses whom I knew had no idea of who I was or even what I did, (which is fine – TG for their line managers) but they also treated me that way.

I also worked for one whom I will never forget.

We had the obligatory workplace health and safety training which had been delivered by previous management with exactly that previous attitude. “We are all here under sufferance. I don’t care and you don’t, just remember this stuff because if you don’t we’ll all be in trouble. Let’s get to morning tea.”

This new gentleman, though, really cared. And he told stories that made his points. I not only learned much, but I remembered what I learned.

Thanks, Dave!

Storytelling –

so that you don’t need to be that leader who has to rely on the power of your position

even (gasp!) so that you can lead without a position.

We need you. The world needs you!

Chat with me now if you want to story the change this world needs.

You might remember in a recent article we explored the idea that our stories are assets – valuable resources to use (not to mention a way of thinking) that lie within your business, your career, your life.  These are resources you can use to teach, to change, to grow, to build your business, your career and your leadership.

Today we look at leadership.

Many leaders, brought through the ranks as they were on a diet of command and hierarchical structures, of statistics and economic bottom lines and outcomes, just cannot see what stories they could possibly use.  The majority of my clients come to me because they know story is a powerful way of thinking and of strengthening their leadership, (or their businesses, careers or personal lives! but today it’s about leadership)  but there is always the search – “Where am I supposed to find these stories, these assets?”

So if that is also your question, or you need to add, perhaps, to your bank of stories then today’s article is for you.

I’ve divided the sources into two – those from inside the organisation and those from outside.

And these are stories you can use for all sorts of reasons and to meet all sorts of challenges from organisational development to branding to building innovation and a company culture.  

Stories from inside and outside of the organisation

Stories from outside

There are testimonials from clients or customers. You can request them and keep them available for use on your website and marketing collateral as well.

There are reviews, again from clients and customers, and feedback. You can set up to request these with a form either on-line or offline.

Obviously this is only the first step. The items you choose, how you make them into a story, and what you achieve with them will depend on many factors and needs.

Possibly the most powerful, though, are those occasions that are unexpected, unrequested, unscripted. If you can tell the story of hearing these, you have a powerful tool especially for conveying values and identity. This is where your role as curator of stories is most amazing, and it’s a skill you can develop – not just listening for the stories but recognising their value and application. Imagine hearing someone in the street, at the local coffee shop or brew-house referring to your company as the solution to a problem or as an example of how a certain type of customer service should be offered, or by the attributes you had so carefully chosen for your branding!

Tell THAT story!

In a different context entirely, there are the stories about how other organisations, businesses, individuals behave. All of those are a wealth of material you can use to teach, to stimulate discussion, to encourage a higher level of, say, innovation, or focus.

It started with losing her lizard.


Sandy Coletta’s pet bearded dragon, or pogona, had escaped from its cage. As president of Kent Hospital in Rhode Island, Coletta says she wrote in the newsletter for 2,000 employees about how she felt losing her pet and her efforts to find it. There was, of course, a moral to the story— about adaptability and looking for solutions to a problem.


The emails poured in, employees at the hospital stopped her in the hall to chat and a worker bought her a cage—one that would fit a raccoon.


“It really struck me that in the C-suite roles, you are distant and people are afraid to talk to you. But in the daily newsletter a few times a week I would talk about issues with my children and sometimes be funny, reflective or provide a personal example,” says Coletta, the author of The Owl Approach to Storytelling: Lead With Your Life. “It was an amazing way to break down the barriers between staff and leadership.”

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Stories from Inside your organisation

Take a moment to watch this video from Steve Wynn. It has always examplified, for me, a classic case of storytelling to communicate and reinforce values in action – in this case customer service.

There are stories from the front line like that – customer service.

There are stories from within processes like product launches. What worked, what didn’t and especially what your team, your organisation can learn from that experience.

And it’s not just the processes they learn, it’s also whether they are safe to admit to failure. Those who feel safe with a leader will contribute with more bravery, more innovation and more initiative than those fearing denigration and shame, and the story of that person who admitted to failure and thus allowed a better workflow to result will be one to tell again.

One of the greatest storytelling roles you can take is to get representatives of all the areas within your organisation from the cleaning and admin staff through marketing and sales to the professional consultants and have them share stories around a topic that applies to the whole organisation. They learn from each other, they build appreciation and respect for each other. You have stories that they shared as well as the stories of the collaboration facilitated, that you can use to build organisational development and alignment.

In reality, those story assets are everywhere, and the more you use stories to communicate the meaning of what you need and want from, and for your organisation, the more you will know just what to look for.

I have had several clients come to me, having left the corporate sector, and wanting to engage an audience without the power of their position.

Story will do that for you as a leader, without you having to rely on your authority, and that makes it so much more effective!!

Jane came from a position as Project Manager with a large mining company.

She was confident, strong, obviously aware of her skills and her success in her career.

She has seen a need in the industry and decided to leave her job and create a startup to develop software that would make work more efficient and effective.

And now she needed to pitch her product, market it, share her vision for it.

And I was amused to see her so obviously confused and bereft, really, when she came to me, admitting that she suddenly realised she couldn’t use her authority to engage her audience.

 

Amanda came to an open mic night to get feedback on her corporate “town hall” presentation.

It was so full of jargon that I understand maybe one sentence in three.

Nevertheless, she was obviously proud of her presentation. It proved she could “speak the language”. Her engagement and authority relied on it.

 

Both of these women and the men that I coach are suffering from varying degrees of disconnection with their audience.

Many aren’t even aware of it. That’s how it is done in their world and they are simply perpetuating their culture.

And their audience tolerate it, thinking that if only they understood the language a little better, they, too, could achieve success in that world.

 

Story is the ultimate connection tool.

It’s the ultimate engagement tool.

It’s the ultimate persuasion tool,

 

Tell your own story.

Tell the story of someone your audience knows, someone they can relate to.

Tell the story of how it could be for them, of how they could be, of how success will feel.

 

Choose the story with your audience in mind, with a lesson they need, with a vision they already know they own,

and there will be no more need for “authority” of “corporate speak” or bullying,

just a bonding, relationship building and cultural alignment that will surprise even the most hardened of corporate gangsters.

 

 



You, me, we have all survived the elections, and will survive the next ones, unless of course we live in a country where we might die for our vote or spoken choice.  If that latter is your experience then this article may still be VERY very relevant.

There is much to think about and say about the whole issue, but the thing that struck me, and has me thinking, is the use of fear as persuasion, as a communication tool, as a way of getting attention – whether you be a public speaker, in conversation, trying to win an election or simply getting your news items into your readers’/watchers’ attention.

It can be as simple and unthreatening as in a fellow public speaking coach’s update recently, listing Robert Cialdini’s 6 methods of persuasion.  

One is Urgency.

“only 3 left”

“tickets selling fast”

“get in now before this offer closes”

And nowadays it is referred to as FOMO – Fear of Missing Out … with a certain degree of wry humour.  

But still, in there is that word, “Fear”.

Simple, non threatening, and often effective.

Except that on the other end of the spectrum …

it can also be as huge and as threatening as a madman with his finger on the red button.

And somewhere in that spectrum sit you and me.

On the receiving end of so much fear and adrenalin.

And on the projecting end, as speakers, in conversation, just trying to get attention, to persuade someone to see our vision, our expectations, our needs and hopes, for ourselves or for others.

And yes it works, this particular persuasion technique, whether it be tiny or immense.  

What we need to recognise is how it is balanced

with its opposite,

and I do know that the opposite of fear is love – a genuine desire to serve, to give, to lead

with integrity.

And my wish for you, and me, today, this week, this year as it draws to a close, is that we continue to do that, to be aware of it, to avoid complacency when it comes to what really matters

and that applies whether we be on the receiving end or the projecting end.

Ask always where is the balance?  Greater fear?

or greater service?

It will continue to be our strength, our currency, our success.

Those who tell the stories.

It’s a powerful statement this.

There’s a mystical, mythical element to it, being a native American saying.

I find it interesting that Plato said much the same thing “Those who tell the stories rule society.”

 

Two such disparate cultures and societies recognising the power of story.

Just about anyone who writes about story, talks about story, ends up using this quote.

And certainly at the level at which most people think about this statement … anyone who tells the stories will make money in business, and rule the world that way.

Story is a currency recognised the world over.

It is a powerful marketing tool, the difference, sometimes, between a profit and a loss.

But looking at it a different way – looking at the leaders, the rulers, those who rule the world.

They lead, they rule because they are able to tell our stories for us.

We need a story to make sense of life.

We need a story to make sense of our culture.

We need a story to make sense of our world.

We need someone to lead us forward by telling our story, what is really happening, how things are going to be.

When there is a movement for change in our culture, a mass discontent with the way things are, in our world, it will succeed because someone is able to lead it forward by articulating for that mass of people, what is really happening and how it will progress, tells the story about it.

What story are your leaders telling?

Let us choose the leaders who tell the story of our highest aspirations, not our lowest common denominators of fear and greed, ego and power.

Let us then buy from the marketers who tell the story of our highest aspirations, not our lowest common denominators of laziness and competitiveness.

Futurist Rolf Jensen said “The highest paid person of the 21st century will be the storyteller.”

Let’s choose whom we pay to tell our stories, and choose well.

 

Every day you put yourself on the line as a leader.

Don’t you?

Every day you feel the weight of responsibility.

Don’t you?

Every day you need your team contributing to the organisation.

Don’t you?

Of course you do.

You don’t, you can’t, protect yourself at the expense of others.

You don’t, you can’t, pass off the responsibility and, worse yet, blame someone else.

You don’t, you can’t, bully your team into working.

Because it’s so much easier and more effective with story.

 1.  After all it’s free and it’s quick.  Think about the bottom line in this.

You don’t have to pay a consultant/trainer/motivator to come in to explain the organisation culture,

to motivate your team,

to train in how best to get the job done,

to communicate the bad news,

to establish your credibility.

2.  You have a powerful persuasive tool, that guarantees instant engagement.

You don’t have to use bullying.

You don’t have to pull rank.

You don’t have to have enforced motivational days that your team recognise for what they are – a day to relax and ignore.

3.  You don’t have to keep repeating yourself.  Your messages become memorable.

The basics of your organisational culture are retained.

The training is remembered.

The motivation is embedded.

The engagement ensured that.

The story structure ensured that.

The stories you chose ensured that.

4.  You can be real

natural

authentic

even vulnerable … within limits.

Real, natural, authentic, vulnerable (within limits) makes you more likable, more respected, more believable, more credible, more persuasive

and it’s easier,

especially if bullying and/or pulling rank and/or using endless theory and statistics are not your natural bent.

5.  Your team, your customers, your prospects can make sense of your organisation.

They will know automatically what your culture is like,

what your brand really stands for,

what it is like to do business/work with/rely on you.

They will know your why.

All without sleazy or incomprehensible marketing.

And they will know it at a very deep level.

 

 

If you are a leader, Your story matters.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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